“MIL actually calls my wife and asks her to talk to her sibling (who is CURRENTLY living with MIL) whenever there is an issue between the two. When we lived in the same state, we spent so much time with my wife’s family. Every weekend, there was some reason to go to MIL’s house. Now, we live across the country, and when we go back for visits, MIL makes snide comments about us staying with my parents and tries to schedule something in all of our free time. If we’re not with her, she’s constantly texting or calling to see what our plans are, even though we told her.”
“If someone cannot set/respect healthy boundaries, even a large physical distance won’t stop them from overstepping in your relationship.
Luckily, my wife and I are on the same page, and she is very good about setting and holding boundaries with her mom. She has no problem putting the phone on DND or hanging up on her mother if she says she has to go and the mother doesn’t end the convo.”
